“Children seldom or never dare to live a happier or more fulfilling life than their parents. Unconsciously they remain loyal to unspoken family traditions that work invisibly. Family Constellations are a way of discovering underlying family bonds and forces that have been carried unconsciously over several generations.” – Bertold Ulsamer
Family Constellations was developed by Bert Hellinger, one of the most respected psychotherapists in the world today. After years of observation, he recognized that powerful, traumatic events such as the premature death of a parent, sibling or child, an abandonment, crime or suicide can forcefully impact future generations, binding us to fates that do not belong to us.
Just as we inherit certain talents or physical traits from our parents, we also inherit emotional and psychological patterns. Like a family tradition these patterns are unconscious and, unaware of their influence upon us, we perpetuate them. There may be systemic reasons why we don’t do well in relationships, experience depression, failure, suffer from mental or physical illness, addiction, or infertility. or why we feel anxious, angry or unfulfilled. Then, no amount of traditional psychotherapy seems to have any good or lasting effect. Unless these hidden dynamics are brought to light, children seldom dare to do it differently – to be happier or more successful than their parents.
A family constellation can make visible what has been unseen, and unspoken. It can restore the flow of Love, and bring the family system into balance so that the living members and future generations, no longer entangled, can live fully and carry forward all the good that they have received from those who came before. In order for this to occur, children need to honour their parents, grandparents and ancestors. All those who belong in the system need to find their right place and to be included.
What happens in a Family Constellation?
A Family Constellation is set up by choosing representatives from the group to stand in the places of important family members according to the client’s inner image. Then mysteriously, they become reporters or vessels through whom the family members communicate and express themselves. In this way, the past as well as the present becomes visible, so that not only the living members of the family, but also the dead become present and the story of their fate comes to light. Moved by Spirit Mind, the representatives reveal hidden, unconscious dynamics in the family, and guided by the facilitator, they help to uncover sometimes surprising, new healing images. With these new pictures the client can let go of destructive patterns, find peace, and stand in greater strength and dignity.
Family Constellations in an Individual Setting
While the Hellinger Approach to Family systems therapy was originally developed in a group context, it is possible to do this work in a private setting as well, using guided visualization, footprints or figurines.
Family Constellation Workshops
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To register or for more information please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call 705 277 1881. Space is limited to 20.